Picture from: Insperity

“What are your thoughts?” Have you ever wondered what someone was thinking before doing something, for example when a friend sends a bad text to a crush, when you see a bad driver on the street, when you meet someone who’s rude? We all do, and if you’ve asked yourself a question like this, you might’ve assumed the answer. People tend to assume; because for every possible question you could ask, you could also imagine an answer.

I used to think because people assume they must also reflect, analyze, wonder. That’s a misconception I have about others. Under my current realization, people tend to do the opposite of this. They think if they can assume they must be right. They don’t think that their assumptions can be made on false statements; that they might be making them without reflecting first.

The thing that surprised me most about this, is how often people tend to assume things about themselves. I mean, think about it. Little children tend to dislike foods without even trying them, and most adults would nag on them for doing so “How can you know you don’t like something without trying it first?”. Well, I think in a way everyone does this. Assume things without fully knowing why. Take into consideration the things you like, maybe traveling, a certain sport, maybe you like socializing a lot. Why? Why do you do all these things? What so special about painting, or bouncing a ball and shooting it through a hoop that makes you love it so much? What do you like about talking with others and meeting new people? Since we tend to assume we’ll probably think we know these answers. “Well, I like the teamwork that comes with sports.” “I like to get to meet new people because I’m a curious person.” Do you? Or is that just a cover you set for yourself. A way to convince yourself that you do all of these things because, hey, it’s normal behavior; perfectly reasonable and simple to understand.

I think in all truth and honesty, most of the things we do truly come down to our roots, and the first assumption you make is usually the one you want to believe, but not everything has a perfectly reasonable answer. Not everything that has a reason behind it that makes sense. Sometimes people like teamwork in sports because they like the reassurance of having someone need you. Sometimes people are curious and like meeting others because they need to be liked, and are curious as to who will. Sometimes the bad decisions we make have complex answers, but sometimes they don’t.

We need to learn to reflect, or not take our assumptions as answers. What you assume is never the truth, and we should stop taking it as if it is. Because then, you’ll always try to fit inside the box you set for your assumptions.

If you don’t accept the fact that even you can be wrong about others and even yourself, you don’t accept the chance to change. You don’t accept the chance that it might be for the better, and looking back and saying “Wow, I’m glad I did that. I’m glad I sat down, reflected, and asked. I’m glad I put aside my pride, and thought about what I was truly thinking.”